Agony Aunt Alex

Sage Advice thats not so Sage

Dear Alex,

I’m at college at the moment studying for my A Level in mental health. I’m a few years older than most students because I couldn’t decide what I wanted to study. I’m 20 years old. Not that age really matters but I feel I need to give you some perspective. I really enjoy it and I think I’ll be a great therapist once I pass my exams. The course itself is dull as dishwater and I struggle with concentration but that won’t matter with the field I’m going to be working in as I just need to pretend to care and listen. Giving the odd non committal response like “Well, how do you feel about that?” Then, act interested in their answer as they ramble on for another 20 minutes telling me exactly how they feel. So, in short, I’ve got my new future career sorted.

It’s my love life that needs attention. Specifically from my college tutor Mr…..Well it’s probably a good idea I don’t give out incriminating details about my life. Let’s call him Mr Mental Health. 

I like him and if I’m not mistaken he’s totally into me too. I think the college must have a ‘you can’t date students’ rule otherwise he would’ve asked me out already. He flirts with me all the time and gives me great marks. I do work hard for those marks though. Like stay up late to make sure I get everything right, hard. So, my question is if he isn’t coming on to me shall I make the first move?

Signed

A very bad student

Dear Very Bad Student,

It’s true. Colleges and most work places will have a ‘you can’t take your student, colleague or client home with you’ rule but that’s not to say it doesn’t happen. 

Given that you are above consenting age I don’t see what could go wrong here. I mean he clearly has a crush on you if he’s flirting with you. I think he may just be shy. In these cases you may have to take the lead. Men love strong women who know exactly what they want and go after it. Just watch any x rated video. They all feature assertive women. Or at least the ones in my partner's private collection do. That’s his kink but enough about him and more about your beau.

If you want my advice and it seems like you do as you wrote to me. Ask to have a private chat with him after a lesson one day and just pounce on him like a sexy cat. What could go wrong? Be bold as fortune favours you. 

Sincerely 

Aunti Alex